see if you can find a docking type connector like they have for laptops and wire your VGA, TS, and B+/GND through it and mold it to the back of the monitor casing with fiberbondowhateverglass, and mold the receiving connector in place with the monitor loaded in, much in the same way people make docks for mac minis. Then you've at least got a robust connector designed for frequent dis/connections
Never mind... just googled it all
no problem! As far as making that connector less of a mission, i'd start by going to Digikey.com and downloading their 64MB PDF catalog. The connector section starts on ~p.22 and i assure you you will find what you're looking for in there. Your power requirements are not that great for a screen alone, but just check the contact ratings and make sure that they will at least handle the mA rating of your screen.
I'm currently searching through there for a 15-pin molex connector i can use to create a speaker harness for my car so i can return it to stock simply by swapping cables rather than going through all this cutting and resoldering and rechecking and recrimping i had to do with my last car. So if i find anything for you, i'll be sure to point you to it.
look in the digikey catalog for a 36-pin Centronics connector. This is the type of parallel printer connection you used to see (and may still) on older printers. It had big fat pins and a pretty good grab. I think if you put the connectors on the bottom of the screen, and dropped it in from above, then you could easily construct some guide rails for lateral stability and let gravity do the rest. start checking at p.233 in the digikey catalog. 24 AWG wiring will be fine for the signals, but you might either want to use several pins for each B+ and GND to make up for the wire size... or just get a secondary power connector. For that a simple barrel plug like you find at radio shack would be suitable and easy enough to work with.
and yes... i will post some pics
thanx again for all the advice/help.