1) Take the vga board to either Radio shack, or your local electronics supply store, adn test out the plugs they have there. You should be able to find the appropriate one.Originally Posted by Danrc30
2) No idea what you are talking about.
3) An arrow on a connector generally means that that pin should be connected to pin #1 on the connector. Look at the connectors for similar arrows, or a red wire, or a wire that is different then the others. If the connector is mounted on a circuit board, look at the board to see if the pins or wires are numbers, or perhaps have an arrow there as well.