I changed the pins.. using a gender changer alone will not work, follow the guide nemesis posted, it works.
I couldn't get hyper terminal to work, either.. I found the best test is in the settings of the "generic serial basd IR receiver" plugin for girder, I just kept that open and kept testing the remote.. all o fa sudden the little area that displays what code is being transmitted sprang to life with numbers and letters! I had broken through!
I highly suggest using an old sega genesis controller cord for the wiring.. much easier to do.. just a matter of twisting wires together, no soldering required.