Soldering is _not_ difficult.
You should probably just have someone show you how to do it.
Here are a few tips:
1) WAIT until the iron is HOT before trying to solder. Don't try and solder when the tip isn't completely hot - you'll get strange results. Turn the iron on, wait for 10 minutes (I know that sounds like a long time for you young guys; but it's really worth it).
2) Use small guage solder - particularly if you're soldering something with small contacts like a VGA cable.
3) "Tin" the wires first. After you strip the wires, take each wire and feed solder/flux (usually the same thing) into it as you hold the iron to the wire. Hold the iron there until the wire changes from copper to "silver". Then tap the wire or flick is so the excess solder flys away / off. It won't hurt you; but definitely wear glasses when soldering (normal eyeglasses work fine).
4) Apply a small amount of solder to the board and while it's hot, connect the wire. Keep the iron on the "joint" / connection point until they both seem like liquid. Now, remove the iron, _while_ holding the two peices together. This is the hardest part - keeping the 2 peices together while pulling the iron away. Use a weight or something to prop everything together.
5) *** DON'T use too much solder. It doesn't take a lot to make something stick. The trick is making what is there melt and holding it there while it drys (usually 2 seconds or so). This is probably where most people make mistakes. It's much easier to add small amounts of solder than to remove it from a 15 pin VGA cable that is completely soldered into a big metal blob. ***
6) Just try soldering random **** together. Take a couple of wires, solder them together, etc. After soldering a dozen wires or so together you'll start to figure out how it works. It's not rocket science. It's much easier than welding, etc. because you don't need special goggles, etc.
My best advice to you is to just experiment on some other things before working on your VGA connector. After screwing with it for like 30 minutes, you'll figure out how easy it is.