finally an end to all this mess! i just got my noise filter in from crutchfield, as suggested by skizot. and it finally knocked out my noise!!!!! i turns out it had something to do with the imic that i was using as well. when i tried hooking the noise filter up directly to the imic, i could hear noise but it wasn't turning my factory amp on. so i switched to the regular headphone jack on the mini and viola, everything works perfectly! i can pause the music and not hear any static. it is perfect! thanks skizot and everybody else who helped with the diagnosis, i owe you all one.