Thread: **** of a GF caught in the act

Originally Posted by saikano

ijust thought i'd mention that it sux to be a girl on this board and see you guys dissin us - we're not all bad...but venting is good, so go on, for now, till you feel better [i hope it's soon]

From www.intellectualwhores.com

***** -- 99.999% of women. Note for men: I know they are. Note to women: yes, you are in this group.

******* -- 99.999% of men. Note to women: I know they are. Note to men: I know you aren't really, and that it's just an act to get women.

Interesting site. Points out some of the differences in the way males and females view relationships. I reccomend that all males read it. All females too I suppose.

Originally Posted by deadweasel

omgitsagirl!!!!

I second that. Girls are rare here.

Anyways i went to the gym last night to get my work out on and guess who was there....

Anyways dramma insued in the parking lot. I was mainly asking her dumb *** WTF was she doing and why.

I went back to her house on my way home and called her to ask if she wanted to talk because i wanted closure to the whole situation.

We talked for many hours and i made it clear that we were through and that she ****ed up. She holds to the fact the that he made a move on her, all they did was kiss (as if that wasn't enough), that the condems were his and she didn't know he had them, and that i caught them right as he started kissing her

I told her it is good we aren't together becasue we both need to do some real growth in ourselves and in the lord. It was so nice to be able to tell her all the **** that I always wanted to say but never want to hurt her feelings.

I got all of the **** out that i wanted to say and said good bye.

Now i have to just stick to my guns (the hard part)

Thats a cute picture... I wont be dating for a while

yeahh, i like puppies...they're soooo cute!

[simple question] how'd you make the picture show in the post that way, instead of as an attachment

Originally Posted by antimatter

Now i have to just stick to my guns (the hard part)

Yes THIS Is the hard part. I've had to break it off with some ladies in the passed. And I learned something, I started writing down the reasons as to why I am not with her and keeping it in my wallet. So anytime I had any thoughts of calling her for "anything", I would quick look at my notes and stoke the fire a bit!

Don't ever forget!

That is a good method. I bet it is very effective. Right now is the ****ty part. I feel like half of me is removed, i have this constant knot in my stomach and can't hold any food down. I am constantly thinking of her, thinking of that night i caught her, thinking of that ****head, thinking of her sorry ***. Everything reminds me of her or us. I am completly tormented. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

I feel like i want to die. She was my world. She made me so happy.

It is amazing one person can give you so much joy and happyness and cause so much pain and anger.

I wish that i never spent the time to talk to her because I keep wanting to see her now and find excuses to talk to her. Now i don't know weather to really believe her or not. If her story is true then it makes things better but is still ****ed up. She still betrayed me, she still was caught with another guy. I just keep remebering that and thats what keeps me from calling even though i really want to.

I know the easiest way to get my mind of her is through someone else but rebounds never last and feel some alone time is good and needed. I have a lot of friends and family around that are really being there for me.

Once again sorry for the the litter on this board and thanks for letting vent

Dude, I think you can count us all as friends here. We all have a common interest, and that alone can cement relationships.

Don't focus so hard on what you've lost. She's the one who lost, not you. Yes, she made a "mistake" as she may want it to seem, but the trust can no longer be there. Think about this: how long would it take, if you were back with her, before you started to second guess everything she did? Worried yourself sick everytime she went out with friends, or simply just wasn't around you? Even worse, people caught the way she was can project their guilt, and start accusing the other of exactly the same thing.

If it hurts this bad now, that's a pretty good sign that there's no good reason to try to save it. It WILL go away. I still think about my ex every now and then, and sometimes I get those little butterflies, thinking about "what if", but then I realize why we didn't work out, and the butterflies go away. It's usually then that I realize what I was feeling wasn't loneliness so much as misplaced guilt. I kept trying to convince myself that it was all my fault, trying to come up with some reason to call her and try one more time.

Once I realized that, the pain went bye bye, and I was able to focus on life again. Focus on taking that next breath, that next step, my friend. Things will be okay as long as you can do that. Don't analyze things so hard that you make yourself sick. What happened, happened, and likely couldn't happen any other way, so take some solace in surviving the trainwreck, understand that impulse instincts are usually correct, and have some fun without guilt or obligation for once!