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    Quote Originally Posted by gambit32
    Exactly. I don't hate my wife but I don't trust her anymore either. When we talked I said to not ever bad mouth me in front of the kids and I would do the same. She said, 'I would never do that.' I told her it's worth saying because I also thought that you would never leave. As nice as it would be to stay together the damage may be done. I don't think I could take her back. I asked her if she could see herself without me and she said yes. What more do I need to know? At that point everything else is irrelevant. I know what I need to know and my life goes on.
    My point is that parents who don't trust one another and can't get along don't make for a healthy environment for a child to grow up in.

    I've been there. My second divorce is in the works presently. I'm no relationship expert, obviously.
    My daughter is very happy living with her mom and I see her as often as possible (can't wait until Thanksgiving!). It works.
    Is it for everyone? No. But staying together 'for the kids' is a lame excuse. Every situation is unique and there's usually a lot more to consider than just the kids...

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    In this situation, the most traumatic experience for a child will occur when his parents are together, often with ceramics (first hand knowledge). And don't allow anyone's admonitions to "just work it out" distress you; consider the source.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DarquePervert
    My point is that parents who don't trust one another and can't get along don't make for a healthy environment for a child to grow up in.

    I've been there. My second divorce is in the works presently. I'm no relationship expert, obviously.
    My daughter is very happy living with her mom and I see her as often as possible (can't wait until Thanksgiving!). It works.
    Is it for everyone? No. But staying together 'for the kids' is a lame excuse. Every situation is unique and there's usually a lot more to consider than just the kids...

    Good luck, hombre.
    I was agreeing with you. It's not any better to stay together 'for the kids.' I think it's harder for people not in the situation to understand. As ideal as marriage is, it's only ideal for the right people.

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    ewwwww, Divorce, I'm sorry man. Me and my girl are getting extreamly serious and we've been talking about having kids and getting married. I dont think I could handle it if she left me. I really wish for your sake you wouldn't have to get a divorce. I can't stand to see soo many people divorce.

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    Yes, marriage is a niave, moribund proposition, yet people still do it. What's new?

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    Quote Originally Posted by eatyummypuppies
    Yes, marriage is a niave, moribund proposition, yet people still do it. What's new?
    Marriage is also the leading cause of divorce...
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    This whole thread is why I don't want to get married!

    But I'm pullin' for ya bro...
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    Don't forget those beautiful days you had together, maybe that's what made it worth wile... but don't livein the past either.

    Staying together for the kids is something I don't beleive in. My parents divorced when I was 7, never been unhappy about it. I sure didn't understand, but that did'n mean I was thinking about it all the time...

    I turned out allright, I like to think

    I'm shure your doughter will too, as long as you don't forget that your children are the most important, always!

    Hang on.
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    I am truly sorry to hear of your situation. As a product of a broken home I can only say (from first hand experience) protect your kid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BasicEvil
    I am truly sorry to hear of your situation. As a product of a broken home I can only say (from first hand experience) protect your kid.
    I can't say our home was broken. Our marriage was. I think there's a big difference. It's not like we argued or fought. There was no domestic violence, no drinking, no drugs, no cheating. It just didn't work. I realize that my kids are forever changed by this, but we have a really good family life. Hers and mine. Both our parents are really supportive. In fact her mom and dad and my mom both cried when we broke the news. Her dad said he hopes that we can still be friends.

    My kids were never in question as far as us protecting them. We've talked since 'the talk' and we both agree that we have to be adults about this for the sake of the kids. I'm not completely ruling us out as a couple but this is all still fresh so I don't know what's going to happen. In the meanwhile I'll date around here and there and show off my carputer because I'll actually have time to work on it!! :-)

    Oh for the non married guys...don't let these threads deter you. Marriage is awesome when it works.

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