Thread: the wife and i had 'the talk'

Originally Posted by migel628

Good insight, I must say...I'll have to look into this sometime soon However, I still haven't heard of any updates on Gambit's situtation...

Update...hmmm...I haven't been around much so let me see what's happened since. Not much to be honest. I got divorce papers today-not from her, on my own. I dl'ed them from our state's website. She came over today to talk about concerns I had with the kids. It went well. I get the kids Tuesdays and Thursdays plus every other weekend. I told her that I'm going to fill out the paperwork this week and give it to her to sign. Everything is very amicable. I have no anger at all. She has no anger. We're good, just not together and we're big enough to realize it. Let's see, we're splitting everything evenly. We don't have any major assets so that's not a worry. She's getting the new Explorer we just bought because the kids are living with her. I'm getting the 62" TV and my car.

We were laughing because we've talked more since this has happened then we did over the last two years. In fact (here's the Jerry Springer angle...) she wants to hook me up with a friend of ours. She was telling me that the first time she met this woman, she thought that she and I would be perfect and she was scared that if I met her that I would instantly fall for her. That's how much we fell out of love. Now we can actually be friends. I know it's kinda weird about the ex hooking me up with another woman, but it's really not. I guess you have to be here to understand. About this woman, she's hot but most of all she's cool. At this point I'll probably just date around though. I'm going to a halloween party Friday in Seattle. That should be good.

Allow me to get a little deep...lol...just kidding BUT I have been doing a lot of soul searching/self inventory-and I'm not one for psycho babble. I never realized how much I sacrficed during this marriage. I gave up/compromised a lot. I know marriage is about compromise, but it's not about giving up what makes you happy. Marriage should be about happiness and sharing your dreams. We both gave up on things that we shouldn't have. Enough sappiness and psycho babble.

So.....some of the things that I plan on changing and have changed. I'm going to start working out again. I loved it when I did it but I stopped to be at home more. I actually started back into it today. Seated rows were kicking my arse (for the UK guys). I need to get to looking like my old pic (see attachment). I'm also going to take guitar lessons. I have a nice acoustic guitar that collects dust. My son and I are going to take lessons. I'm also going to resurrect my DJ equipment. It currently sits in my garage in it's coffin. I might even sell it, not sure though. I'm buying a motorcycle. That's one biggie that I sacrificed. The ex didn't like the idea of me riding on I-5 on a bike. Anyone from WA/CA/OR can tell you how hectic the highway gets. I'm also seriously contemplating going back to school. I need to do something more fulfilling. So law school is something that I might take a shot at. I've always wanted to be a criminal defense attorney. The other school option is becoming a teacher. That would most definitely be a labor of love because we all know they don't get paid much. I already have a BA in accounting and haven't been out of school that long so getting back into it wouldn't be difficult. The ex and I discussed possible tweaks to the schedule because of school. I'm still young (31), relative to the real world and not necessarily to the board lol. I'm also going to start writing again. Oh yeah, to add to the fireworks in this thread, I'm going to go to church next Sunday. Take it for what it's worth.

If you read this far...I'm good. Thanks for asking.