Thread: A girl calling you a good friend. What does that mean?

Originally Posted by NiN^_^NiN

I've been in many of these type of things and have thought about why this happens.

Basiclly your a friend and they wont tell you they don't like you to be more than that.

You their best thing cause your like a girl who understands but doesn't ***** your kind so they know they can get away with alot of stuff and they will dump you when they have someone then slowly come back when they need u.

They know their doing it but they think if they don't tell you they don't want you then you will always be there which is sadly true for alot of guys.

I've talked about this to alot of mates and girls and they all agree that they know what there doing there just using you.

the girls say they use the guys like this cause when there all screwed up or lonely they go to the nice guy cause he's like a security blanket.

they can basiclly treat you like **** and you don't relise it.

I have always been interested why most girls behaved like this. Thing is alot of guys I known are too naive to realised what has even happened to them. I cant get a firm explanation for the girls behaviour from them until now (thanks to you guys). Asking some of my female friends, they wont admit it, some do, some get ****ed off with me for asking...obviously

Theres this girl whos really into me a few years back. Kept asking me if I have a GF, if Im seeing someone, how many GF I had, how I am and stuff. I couldnt really take her seriously as Im seeing someone then. Anyway I kept myself open for her and would never put her in a friend only box until we give it a try. I simply dont believe in putting a girl at that level until we both try and decide it cant work out...its just aint fair otherwise.

Well, last year she stop being nice as she used to be...dont really reply to messages, dont ask me as much as she used to. Girls are really sweet when they want you.

I thought OK, bet she found a BF. BINGO I was right, told me how wonderful he is...blah,blah,blah. I told her that I understand that she cant keep intouch that much anymore.

3 months later shes back, shes nice and sweet as usual and all. My immediate thinking is that the BF dumped her, was I right to think that way? I was indeed. I asked her so what happened with the BF and you? Oh hes such an *******, cheated on me and treat me like dirt. At this time we are both seeing no one...so perhaps we can give it a try. Development is slow due the distance, but Im sure trying.

Few months later, she start telling me about some guys she like and Im such a good friend. I can almost feel a sound of discouragements for my attempts.

I though, ah ok you dumped me in a "friends only land" without giving me much of a chance. Something Ill never do to anyone.

Anyway I got a bit ****y and ask her about the meaning of a male friends to her. She got ****ed off with me...hehe. Not that I care anymore, I already been used anyway.

Originally Posted by Curiosity

Well, getting pussy sounds a little selfish. Let's call it... satisfying the sex crazed woman. Better? Like antimatter says, girls like it when a guy takes control. Right from the start you can either become a friend or make her feel like a woman. Ack! How'd Shania get in my MP3s.

I agree, thats why I dont behave like that. Well try not to anyway

I can understand why guys does that though. Heck if thats what the customer wants, then give it to them kinda attitude.

Originally Posted by dodgetimes2

When a chick gives you the "just friends" line, it means she has absolutely no interest in ******* you but will gladly accept any gifts or money you are willing to give her. This is even worse than a whore because you aren't getting laid in return. Don't waste your time, find some of here other girl friends and **** as many of them as possible!!!

Funny though, I blatantly ask a female friend if she would **** me (Just to see the response) The answer is of course NO.

Why is that?
Her...because you are my friend and wouldnt wanna ruin it.

But why did you **** a guy you didnt even know on the beach? (she was proud telling me that story)
Her...because I didnt know him, it was a one nite.

So ok you rather **** strangers than your friend why is that?
Her...Because a one nite with a stranger they can never come back for more. With a friend they expect me to **** them all the time.

Ah Ok fair enough. If you needed help or money, I wont give it to you just incase you ask for more. Ill rather give it to stranger cause I know they cant come back for more.
Her...ermm, ohhh , ahhh thats different.

Why is it different? If I pay you 1 million, would you **** me?
Her...I might do.

But I though you dont **** friends?
Her...ermm, ohhh, ahhh.

So money changes everything then? But no thank, I think I can get a far better whore for a million.

Originally Posted by Enforcer

B'stard beat me to it.

Its been posted before

An interesting concept though...too **** some girls off

Ugh! That self-pity site will do more harm than good, but go ahead and read it.

You guys act like sex is something you beg for. Turn it around. Think of it as something you give, and ye shall recieve. In this world beggers get pennies. Show me a romantic movie where the guy begs for a kiss, sex, whatever. It'll be fiction.

Originally Posted by Pudge

I like the old "i'm not ready for a BF"

yeah and u find out that week she's into another guy and is on his nutz lol cuz it turns out to be ur friend but she doesn't know ur friends hehe ...........I'm workn on this one chick right now. I'm not really into her but seeing if I can get sum suckysucky out of it. Hey its worth a shot! They use us and abuse us. I say its ok for us to hit it and quit it