Thread: What would you do if your girlfriend.....

im naturally highly attractive.

but seriously, the pics are always blurry and after they spent 2 hours making sure there hair isnt gay looking like it always is in real life. then they wear sunglasses, photoshop out pimples and **** and there, a false impression of an ugly guy that the girl you waste your time on falls for.

some cheesy lines and a false impression.

dump the hoe and pick up someone over the age of 17..... the girls at Sandburg High school are looking mighty fine these days (Sorry.... You guys would get it if you lived in Orland Park like me and Kal)

Originally Posted by ODYSSEY

You can not build a relationship with her unless you trust her, no matter how much you care/love her.
... The sea is full of fishes.

Now that's the right attitude. Real trust doesn't mean you don't care, but that you simply know that she would never betray you, and you're comfortable with anything she does.

Originally Posted by EsKALad

i was on the other line like "dont expect me to cry" i told her i wasnt gonna cry for her and she wasnt worth my tears. lol i think that ****ed her off. yet still we managed to get back together.

And there's where she starts to see value in you and that she could lose you. Paying enough attention to her doesn't really mean taking her out and spending money, even every few days. I barely ever spend any money. To "pay attention" means just that. Do you ask her how her day was? Do ask her how she's truly feeling? How much do you know about who she is, her past, what she likes, what she enjoys doing? The more you share about yourselves, the more trust you'll have and the closer you'll get in the relationship.

Before one can get into a serious relationship one have to atleast established if the other person is trustable.

Heck I wont even bother with her if I see her flirt like a whore. From what I understand EsKALad is trying to confirm if shes a trustworthy person, yeah he can pull out if the girl is ****. Why act later when you can find out now and leave the relationship if shes no good?

Consider this, you are in a party, your GF walked off and gone for a flirt, took some guys number, would you still trust her? You caught her naked with your friend in your appartment, they just decide to have a shower together, they didnt have sex or anything, would you still trust her?...of course not.

I dont see it as jealousy or not trusting her, she done nothing wrong, didnt cheat or whatever. Its more of a disrespect to the guy and being careless with the relationship. She might be a really good girl, who knows, but what she does dont look good at all, no guys will take her seriously. In my opinion she cant be trusted, how can you trust her if she cant even behave in front of you, what she be doing if you are not around?

True, there has to be some trust for a relationship to work but how far will you allow her with her **** before you take some action?

Of course a person can be changed, WTF? Where on earth did you guys hear that a person cant be changed. If you are in a relationship and theres something that you do that really bothers your girl...of course you will try to change for the sake of keeping everything peaceful. Likewise the girl will change for you if she love you enough, she will give up things for you if that what it takes to keep the relationship going. It takes 2 for a relationship to work and theres always some form of compromise for it to work. Change her or just put up with her **** if she cant change for you. Whatever it is as long as both are happy then things should work out.

There are some rules in a relationship laid by the persons involved. Obviously theres the basic rules already laid out even before the relationship start, such as being faithful with each other. As the relationship progress further, rules are added, chaged or removed. For example, I might not like her to go home late at night without informing me where shes going, what time she be back or who she be with. If she cant follow those basic simple rules then shes obviously a **** and dont deserve ****.

If the girl want to be loved, she really need to give up her ****. She can carry on acting like a whore but she shouldnt expect guys to treat her good. There are some guys who would let girls get away with all sort of things, this is why alot of westernised girls behave like this cuse of the way they are spoilt by the guys.


Anyway back to the orginal topic,

If shes only a **** girl to me then I dont care what she does as long as I get my ****.

If shes the one to marry then NO, I wont put up with her flirt, cause I think its a serious threat to the relationship. How innocent it may look but it can be really damaging to the relationship, a small little flirt can lead into anything. If she cant stop flirting, she might as well stick with the guy shes flirting with, she find him cute enough so let her stay with him. Im out of the relationship and will find someone whos alittle bit more respectful and responsible.

Originally Posted by EsKALad

i dont think its thats she isnt trustworthy.

Then theres no problem then

Originally Posted by EsKALad

i have been ****ed over so many times in the past that im programmed to think the person will cheat. i realize when i do that **** it causes them to cheat. shes just so perfect for me that im looking for small **** like this to call her out on.

If you already told her you are not ok with her flirt and she love you then she should stop for the sake of keeping the relationship. The girls you had in the past are obviously trying to check out a better guy. If you make a big deal of her flirt then shes ready to leave and be with the guy she flirted with.

Honestly if the girl is still flirting while you are in a serious relationship with her, shes still hunting for a better one. Shes not happy with you in some departments and will leave as soon as she see the opportunity...shes just waiting for your **** up and make that the reason of her leaving.

I voted this >>> Drop her. Kick his ***. Be alone.

Lol, you dont need to kick his ***, its not the guys fault. Oh and you dont need to be alone, find a better girl who will respect your wishes. If she does then you know shes willing to change for you and just proved that she loved you.