Watch out, they love skinny guysOriginally Posted by jjh221
Watch out, they love skinny guysOriginally Posted by jjh221
I already introduced you to those once they were sexy type of girls that I know. Few more are wanting to hook up with you...Ill leave you to look after them all, you keep the detailsOriginally Posted by jjh221
Eh it kinda sounds like something else she was trying to do didnt work out and now she wants at least something and is willing to "settle" with you, instead of having nothing.
At least i would be worried about that if she was the one who wanted out more then you did.
make sure you get a regular amount of Chumba written into the contract!
can't keep a good chumba down...
As a battle-scarred veteran of two failed marriages, I'll share my opinion:
You divorced her for a reason. Usually those reasons are based on fundamental personality differences. Those fundamentals RARELY change, so as a result the udnerlying reasons you divorced will not change.
If she screwed around on you, she is likely to do it again. If she spends all your money, she probably will again. If she's a bloody moron, odds are she is still a bloody moron.
Would I take back either of my ex-wives? Never.
I am still friends with Ex #1. She is really a decent human being and we were both young, stupid and enjoyed the sex. She is currently into her 4th husband (I was #2). She's been married to him for as long as the other three combined.
I refuse to talk to Ex #2. She's a bloody moron.
Sorry I've been gone so long, got hit by the flu on friday and I have been down and out all weekend. Anyway, we divorced because of the apthy on both parts. The aruments were long and went in circles. We both in a way gave it up but I did try to fight it. But as months went on I gave in.
Oh, and the contract is not finished but this is what she sent me: Pardon the misspellings, she can be a bloddy moron.
Ody why do you say not to?
The relationship is defined as how both parties will act towards each other. This is also defined as a business relationship and partnership. Each person has equal rights to each decisions and actoins that need to be taken on a daily basis.
The husband will be the man of the house. He is to keep up with the honey do list and decisions that need to be make including but not limited to major puraches, decore, what's for dinner, what to watch on TV, how to rearange furniture, when and how often both parties go out.
The wife will be the woman of the house. She is to keep up with daily chores and dishes. She will be the main provider for child/ren. She is to be the main cook, cleaner and also the checkbook holder. She is to ask before making any major purches and also anything to do with the child/ren.
It is required that a mimum of 4 times a month both parties engage in some sexual activity. Included is going out 3 times a month and weekly phone calls to In-laws and other close relatives that require phone calls.
Also, 4 times a month each party is required to go out with their own friends alone and not complain about the other party. Or say anything that would embrass the other party if they were in the room. Encluded in this the couple will engage in a social event that is of a worthy cause decided by both of them. If no charitiable occation that month, donote to good will or volenteer somewhere.
The couple should act as if they are in love or at least like each other at most times. If this can not be achived then the contract needs to become null and void and each shall go their own way. If the couple has children envloved then they must wait till the contract is up for renewal to see what can be done at that time.
The relationship should be a normal working text book marriage. No questions should arise that have to deal with their own roles as female and male or Mother and Father. Also, gestures of love and gratitude are to be expressed each day. There is not set limit on the numbers of times that this should happen but no one should feel as if they are not appreicated or loved at any given time durring the durration of this contract. Also, no admentment shall be added to feel loved or appreacted, this should come on a natual level of a business relationship. Please and thank you should just be normal.
Fighting is allowed to a certin extent. There are rules for fighting and each party must try their best to achive fighting by the rules. If this can not be done with in the first 3 weeks of marriage the contract needs to be revised and added to so that each couple has their say of what can and can not happen durring a fight.
Rule One: Must have a ligiment reason to fight.
Rule Two: Silent treatment, huffing and puffing, pouting, acting four, screaming for no reason, calling your mother, or acting like an ***, are not allowed more than once in any given fight.
Rule Three: No past arguments are allowed to creep into any fight that is taking place. You can not use old fights tiffs or anything of a past nature against the other person.
Rule Four: Children are not to be the source of a fight.
Rule Five: When angery and up set each person needs to take turns defending their argument. If the other doesn't feel it is valid then they must wait for their turn before expressing it.
Rule Six: If screaming and yelling begin one person must try to walk away to let the other calm down. Also, there is a code word to stop the screaming to be decided upon before signing this contract.
Rule Seven: Once the fight is done and either party feels as if they need to talk it out more they must both agree on a time to do so and get together and work on the problem.
If the problem is with money they need to have a meditator who can help them that is not someone who is in the family and who won't take sides. A regual counisler will be helpful if monatary things allow this to happen.
Children are to be talked about proir to having them. Both parties should decide on the best way to rear their children. Weather or not religion will be apart of the childs life and also how they want to have the children eat. Also, punishment and rules and guidelines should be set in place before having any children.
Each party should make a list of how they see their children being raised and share it with the other party. They should both have one set of rules and ways they both agree on and it shall be put into this contract before the marriage is agreed upon.
The first child shall be concived before the first year of the marriage is complete. All rules and regulations shall be in place before the child is born. To see other rules for fighting and relationship durring pregnacy see section 3.
The home (stick built only) will be purched before the first child is born. Both parties should agree on the style, type, and location before moving or making an offer. The house can be a fixer uppper but not to the point that it is not liveable for both parties or the child on the way. If the man decides he wants to be handy around the house all projects will have a time limit and some proffesional help involved before starting any projects.
The projects are subject to montary needs and also the mans ability to preform such tasks. The woman will not complain about the mess or the time that it takes for the man to proeform any tasks. Till the time limit is up, the woman is not able to nagg or push for compleation of any projects. Once the time limit is up the woman may call any proffesional to get any messes fixed, repaired, or completely redone depending on monatary funding for that month and or year.
The house has house work. This should be divided between both the man and the woman. Each party is allowed to switch the house work with the other and also they can make vauge decisions such as , Man has the out side and the woman has the in side. But before the marriage they each should have a mondane task that each will take care of each week. For example: The woman has laundry and the man has bathroom. Which ever way they want to divid that. This is a monthly thing that can be taken care of by both parties with out the help of a couniler. If a counliser is needed they need more help than this contract can offer.
The main money is to be provied by the man of the house. He needs to be able to support the woman and any children they are going to have. He should be able to manage alone before the wife is in the picture. If he has montarty problems before the marriage then he needs to think hard before signing such a contract.
A savings fund and IRA fund shall be in place before the marriage. These funds should be regually deposited into so that both parties will have a net incase of emergencys.
Both parties will decide how the money will be spent and what lugries it will be spent on. Example: cable, collections, hot tub, vacation ect. Each party has a say and they shall decide on one. No one is right and no one is wrong when it comes to money. But a decision should be made on how the funds will be spent.
If the woman decides to work out side the home then a precentage of her income will be put towards the IRA and the savings. That should be decided upon after she starts working and she knows how much he money will be in each month.