Thread: Does this sound gay?

Originally Posted by Emo

First of all, tell me a good reason of why I should be with these girls when all they do is use me for car rides... sometimes (not all the time) the bill is on me when we go out... and at the end of the night, they go to their boyfriends and I go home alone.. that's not fair if you ask me.

Do you think perhaps this might be the reason why they are hanging out with you to begin with?

-g.

Originally Posted by Genesisfactor

First, i apologize for calling you what you weren't, even though it was a play on names, in somewhat bad taste, but it was to prove a point. Believe it or not, you're sounding like one. Seriously, you are.

First off, until they make you drive around THEIR friends for the fun of it, repeatedly, they're not using you more than a buddy without a car who needs help. I was in that situation for a year. I mean, you see them seeing you as one of the girls, but until they give you a complete spa makeover, dress and wig included, you should be seeing them as one of the guys. Until they hang up with you on the phone when you're seeking advice or soemthing (not booty), you shouldn't either. I mean, what happened to the word "friend"? If you're their platonic friend, that's great, there's nothing wrong with that. Infact, there's alot right with that. Stop seeing you yourself as a tool and start seeing yourself for what they see you for: a trustworthy guy. You missed the point on why the girls in high school hung out with the gay guy: he's not going to turn around and try to bang em. I mean, if you turned to your buddy one day and said "ya know, i have these feelings for you that won't go away and- " right about there, you'd get knocked out. These girls will wait a little longer, see the friend they had disappear to because, as they say "every other horny guy out there" and then hit you.

And this whole paying thing? I mean, if htis a more times than not you pay, then there's a slight probelm, but nothing major. Be a man and tlak to them about it- in a nice way. If if bothers you so much, and yu can't figure out what to say, to solve that, say: hey, i'm trying to save up for __________ , I really want and need it, and its going to be a while before i can pay for all of us going out. If they're great friends, you'll be showered with leftovers from the last mall escapde, but if they're good friends, you're off the hook. Just make sure you get it sometime in the future. They understand you're a guy and want things, but after the inital joking around with you of "you don't need that!", as long as you say yes and smile, they'll get it and back off. If they don't you have issues.-

THe BEST thing to do is tell them you're looking for a girlfriend and ask if they have suggestions. It shows you're not gay AND there's nothing more that a girl likes to play than match maker. Also shows that one day, if one had feelings for you, the door was open. Plus, your ability to compose yourself around them as friends gives you the added bonus of them showering you with compliments to the girl, and girls listen to girls. Its a golden find for girls to meet a guy who's willing to "just be friends", especially when they're hot.

Just go on, and do whatever, all you situations have easy and firendly solutions that don't end in you screwing yourself up, but don't be like the man with the goose that laid the golden eggs.

I had no idea Dr. Phil was into carputers!?
Well Put!

Emo,

Wiredwrx is right, listen to him. Genesisfactor makes a couple of good points but, with all due respect, is wrong.

Originally Posted by Genesisfactor

First, i apologize for calling you what you weren't, even though it was a play on names, in somewhat bad taste, but it was to prove a point. Believe it or not, you're sounding like one. Seriously, you are.

First off, until they make you drive around THEIR friends for the fun of it, repeatedly, they're not using you more than a buddy without a car who needs help. I was in that situation for a year. I mean, you see them seeing you as one of the girls, but until they give you a complete spa makeover, dress and wig included, you should be seeing them as one of the guys. Until they hang up with you on the phone when you're seeking advice or soemthing (not booty), you shouldn't either. I mean, what happened to the word "friend"? If you're their platonic friend, that's great, there's nothing wrong with that. Infact, there's alot right with that. Stop seeing you yourself as a tool and start seeing yourself for what they see you for: a trustworthy guy. You missed the point on why the girls in high school hung out with the gay guy: he's not going to turn around and try to bang em. I mean, if you turned to your buddy one day and said "ya know, i have these feelings for you that won't go away and- " right about there, you'd get knocked out. These girls will wait a little longer, see the friend they had disappear to because, as they say "every other horny guy out there" and then hit you.

Genesisfactor is right, there is nothing wrong with having platonic woman friends. Just be sure they are "friends" and treat them like friends. Treat them the way you would treat a guy friend and expect them to treat you like you would expect to be treated by a guy friend. I will not give any more attention, time or energy to a hot looking platonic girl friend then I would one of my guy friends and I demand that they treat me and my time with respect. These girls are not going to be there for you when you need a friend like a guy friend would be. I probably expect more from a platonic woman friend then I do from a guy because woman require more effort to be friends with. Of course, I usually end up sleeping with my hot looking platonic women friends.

And this whole paying thing? I mean, if htis a more times than not you pay, then there's a slight probelm, but nothing major. Be a man and tlak to them about it- in a nice way. If if bothers you so much, and yu can't figure out what to say, to solve that, say: hey, i'm trying to save up for __________ , I really want and need it, and its going to be a while before i can pay for all of us going out. If they're great friends, you'll be showered with leftovers from the last mall escapde, but if they're good friends, you're off the hook. Just make sure you get it sometime in the future. They understand you're a guy and want things, but after the inital joking around with you of "you don't need that!", as long as you say yes and smile, they'll get it and back off. If they don't you have issues.-

Why play games? Tell them you will pay your fair share or if you paid last tell them it is their turn to pay - if they don't like it tell them to get lost. Regardless, you shouldn't be wasting too much time on them - you should be out meeting women that you have a future with.

THe BEST thing to do is tell them you're looking for a girlfriend and ask if they have suggestions. It shows you're not gay AND there's nothing more that a girl likes to play than match maker. Also shows that one day, if one had feelings for you, the door was open. Plus, your ability to compose yourself around them as friends gives you the added bonus of them showering you with compliments to the girl, and girls listen to girls. Its a golden find for girls to meet a guy who's willing to "just be friends", especially when they're hot.

Total BS. These girls are not going to want to give up their plaything(you). They will certainly not fix you up with the kind of chick you want to be with. They would never bring another hot looking cool chick into their circle of friends - it might make them look bad and why would they want to lose your attention, free meals and free taxi service. You will get nothing but heartache from this relationship unless and until they respect you.

Just go on, and do whatever, all you situations have easy and firendly solutions that don't end in you screwing yourself up, but don't be like the man with the goose that laid the golden eggs.

There is nothing wrong with being friends but not at the expense of your self-respect. Stop being their ***** and start acting like a man if you expect to be treated like one.

Wow, GBH and Genesisfactor are making some great points.

It's really hard for me to keep things platonic with a girl that I'm interested in. I guess most of my platonic friends are not that hot. Makes things a lot easier....

Although, why am I even thinking about having non platonic relationship with girls, I have a GF....

Peace,

Rafster

Originally Posted by Wiredwrx

I was in a similar situation with these 2 chicks. Both with BFs, and they were treating me like thier *****, complaining about stuff to me, chillin with me. After a couple of months of that (and I admit I shouldn't have waited that long, either **** or get off the pot is my new motto) I started little unavailable, and telling them that I felt like a *****, and that there was no point to chill unless we was knocking boots, and guess what, I started hitting both of them

Michael

yep. my ex from...5 years ago is my best friend, today. shes had...8 or 9 boyfriends since. beleive me, im a very jealous kind of guy, but after the 2nd or 3rd or so, i just realised we were great friends and happy at that. as gay as that sounds.

although its pretty cool to say "jesus my nuts itch so bad, itch em for me?" and not hear "EWW!" in reply.

but yeah. i was someones ***** for the past 4 or 5 months and 2 weeks ago, i was just like "**** it" and stopped answering her calls and messages. feels pretty good. lol. you gotta admit, after a certain amount of "i hate (enter her bf's name here) so much, hes being such an ******* right now" it gets really annoying.

well i just wrote a huge paragraph, but thought i'd spare you my life story. but **** happens. the girls that are "friends" for too long, are most likely always gonna be 'just that.' but I could see getting back together with my ex thats a good friend. too bad she has a boyfriend. i could defently kick his ***. but whatever, atleast she isnt in tears or yeah the typical 'as long as shes happy' scenario.

Originally Posted by Escalade182

yep. my ex from...5 years ago is my best friend, today. shes had...8 or 9 boyfriends since. beleive me, im a very jealous kind of guy, but after the 2nd or 3rd or so, i just realised we were great friends and happy at that. as gay as that sounds.

So, you don't tell her not to go on Myspace?

Peace,

Rafster

Originally Posted by Genesisfactor

THe BEST thing to do is tell them you're looking for a girlfriend and ask if they have suggestions. It shows you're not gay AND there's nothing more that a girl likes to play than match maker.

i tried that. and she just felt bad for me.

lol

Originally Posted by Rafster

So, you don't tell her not to go on Myspace?

Peace,

Rafster

lol. shes not too into her's anyway.

bla bla bla cant be arsed reading everyones replies...basically 1st thing to do is rig up some webcams in your bedroom and the bathroom so we can get a peek.

Then get them all drunk/stoned and **** em all in a foursome. Then send the videos to their boyfriends!