Ok so on reading the FAQ again (properly) zorro notes the following:
"Another thing is using the CarPC as a Headset. This feature is not a part of PhoCo it's a part of the Bluetooth-Stack (i.e. Widcomm) you use (in fact, you don't need PhoCo for that).
For now, this behavior can be switched on but it can't be controlled. The side effect on this is: If you switch it on, calls will be connected automatically without user interaction."
From what I have found the calls now wait until you confirm either reject or answer incoming call?
My question to Zorro is will you be supporting the headset feature to connect on startup of Phone Control in a future release or is it something that is just not possible?