Some known issues that will cause ilist to fail in RR is having any non Microsoft remote desktop application installed that uses a mirror driver, such as logmein, VNC and a few others. Simply having these applications installed will produce errors. Also, you cant remote desktop into RR even using the built in RD in windows with ilist as RD disables Direct X.
Old video drivers or crappy video drivers also likely to have issues.
There will be a patch that people can apply to the skin soon that will globaly disable ilist in the skin for those unable to run it.
If RR freezes when you click AUDIO its most certainly related to the ilist that is on that screen.
double check your RR.ini file and make sure its pointed to the correct skin. also check resume.ini it also stores the last used skin path and make sure its pointed to the correct skin. For some reason on a fresh install of RR its pointed to a skin that doesn't exist.
As for your iphone, it will not work with RR nor will the ipod touch. They will not (at least for now) work with any 3rd party software other than iTunes. Apple saw it fit to disable disk mode on the new ipods to block any 3rd parth media players from connecting to the ipod because of greed. I feel your pain, and may apple burn in hell.
If you have an older ipod they work fine in RR and other apps.