what you are looking for is out there already. So i guess the answer is YES you are too picky. Road runner is pretty easy to pick up, but as with any front end you will have to LEARN how it works before being able to pick up and go. Road runner is my choice because its completely flexible. There are tons of great skins and EACH one can be tailored to each users exact need. Spend a week playing with RR and reading its forum and you'll understand its madness. As for your remote. You can take most any remote and use girder to control its functions. There's no reason you cant use it in the car. I've used playstation 2 remotes, xbox remotes, and now i'm using the remote for my extigy sound card, completely catered to my setup with girder. Between RR and frodo ( the two i've worked with) there's no reason you cant be up and running with the ability to customize and skin within a week if you apply urself.