Well I came to a decision...
I ordered a Sound Blaster Live! 24-bit External USB Sound Card along with 3 JL CL-RLC Line Level / Driver units. I will control all 3 through one knob in the dash. I already have a JL amp for the subs with a HD-RLC so I can control the sub volume separately with that.
I am also setting up to use Foobar2000 along with purchasing actual CDs and ripping them all to FLAC files for lossless files.
I really wanted an all in one line driver unit maybe even with EQ built in, and i found some, but on top of being crazy expensive none of them had a remote volume/level knob.
Hopefully between all these it will make a huge difference otherwise I just wasted a lot of money
I'll post up my findings when i get it all installed and working (may be a while as I haven't had a lot of free time and its getting cold at nights here in NJ)