Life... Appreciae it!

BoyNextDoor · 06-05-2006, 01:27 PM

It just so happened that i had the worst Weekend in a long while this weekend... this may come as a rant, but it's not ment to be that. if you care, please think of me, and pray for me. If you don't thanx for reading. I'm trying to ease the pain.

This saturday at 10PM (local time in Hungary) one of my best friends that i lost contact with a few months back killed himself. It shook me by the ground. His marriage got in trouble, and his wife started cheating. He tried doing what he could to save the marriage, even cintacted our old pastor who we practically grew up with, and tried looking for advice. After a lot of pain he Jumped out from the 4th floor around 10PM Saurday, and after 4 hours of Doc's desperate struggle to save him, he passed away. Thinking of it makes me sick, and sad. Thinking that his Dad was the first one to see him after the accident him calling the ambulance... just too much to handle.

It's an alerting situation, that should make us more aware of eachother. To keep contact of all our friends, and to help eachother out wherever we can... I'm deeply shook by this, and can't explain the sorrowness i feel... I barely slept all weekend, and... no words for this feeling...

He was a dear friend of mine, he was a succesfull Bus Driver. he saved his wifes life by saving her from her drug addiction. they got married, and things seemed fine... she started cheating, he tried to save the marriage, untill he couldn't take it anymore...

To anyone who cares: Please pray for his family, and all his friends (including me) that the pain may ease, and that we learn from this tragedy. I promised myself that once i'm over this whole thing, i'm gonna try to contact as many of my ld and new friends as possible, so i do my part of keeping contact. Maybe if he had his supposedly friends (who i thought where true friends) there to help him, and stand by him in time of need this wouldn't have happened...

I beg you. If you have friends who you didn't keep in touch with for a while, contact them and ask them how they are. Don't let this happen to you. I for one am sure to start this right away.

Thak you for reading this, and help me get over this, sorry for the long post, and if you care, please leave a few good thoughts here for me to chew on...

Cheers (sorta)

BND

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Puffanug · 06-05-2006, 01:31 PM

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Your friend's family and you will be in my thoughts. I know how you feel, I have had friends that I have lost touch with pass on, and it hurts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, I hope people reading this head your advice and keep in touch with those they care about. Life is too short, and friend's are too important to let it all slip by...

I will be making some phones calls tonight to some old friends. I have been bad this year in keeping touch with them. Thank you for the post, it was the kick in the pants I needed to pick up the phone and make the calls...

turbocad6 · 06-05-2006, 01:39 PM

hey man, don't start feeling like a contributing factor in this.... it is a very sad thing, but you can't feel guilt... I feel for you & wish you peace in all this...

sometimes life can be hard... & to some it can seem too hard at times.... it's natural when things get really bad to start thinking it's not worth living anymore... I'm willing to bet everyone has felt this way at least once in there life... but the difference is all in how you justify everything in your head... & how much strength you have, & in what you feel you have to live for... deppresion is a sad thing & plauges many at different points in there life.....

I'm real sorry for your loss...

Tibby93 · 06-05-2006, 01:48 PM

That was a rather touching post, and I got a similar wake up call last year. I'm not here to steal the spotlight (so to speak) and to be honest, I don't want to rethink how I felt, but your thoughts are basically how I felt. I'm sorry you had to experience such a tragedy, but sometimes people just need a rude awakening to see that life is as precious as a bar of gold. (Okay, that was a bad comparision). Nonetheless, I got my rude awakening, you got yours, it hurts to see these things, but don't dwell on it. It happened, it's not your fault, it's not even really his friend's fault, it's his wife's fault, but life is too short (often unexpectedly short) to be sad, lonely or have all this weight on your shoulders. Hang in there buddy, before you know it, you'll be back on track, but he'll never be forgotten.

BoyNextDoor · 06-05-2006, 01:48 PM

Thank you. I did realize though in these couple of days who my real true friends are, and who i can rely on. And also i realized who i thought were, that aren't... it's too bad though, that something like this needs to happen for people to start thinking. I hope everyone learns from this tragedy, and start thinking to apprecate life. It could be over in a second... Boy am i f'd up in the head right now...

thanks for the kind words. if i can save a few friendships with this thread, i'm happy.

turbocad6 · 06-05-2006, 02:01 PM

life is very fragile.... that's why I don't upset myself with little bs problems... to many people take little problems & act like there so big.... BS... whatever your "problems" are today, they'll mean nothing a few weeks from now & you'll have a whole new set of "problems"... it's all BS.... when it comes down to it, THIS is a real problem & justified in getting upset & screwed up in the head for.... these are the things that really matter....health is wealth..... all other problems are BS...

Tibby93 · 06-05-2006, 02:16 PM

Don't let it get to your head, keep your head up high, clean, clear, fully attentitive, and enjoy life the way it was meant to be enjoyed. And whether you know us or not, mp3car.com is a community of friends, who are mainly on the same line (we're all geeks with computers in our cars LOL) and we'll understand, and we're here to help eachother out, so if there's anything you want to ask, or just let out, let 'er rip man!

Rafster · 06-05-2006, 05:04 PM

Hey man,

Like I told you on Sat. night on AIM, I'm really sorry you have to go through this pain.

Just keep his memory alive and remember the good times you had with him. Try to get in touch with some of your old friends that you haven't talked to in a while.

I wish you and all that knew you're friend a speedy recovery from the pain that they are feeling!

God Bless,

Rafster

Chris31 · 06-05-2006, 05:47 PM

Sorry to hear about the lost of your friend.

I was once in a situation where I didnt talk to my sister for a while. Before I went on holiday my grandma begged me to talk to my sister, I said why? it was her fault now you are telling me to make up with her? She said yes but you are going far away from us. After a few minutes of thought I realised what shes trying to tell me. I decided to call my sister the next day and talk to her about my holidays as if we had no resentment in the past. Ever since, I value my friends and families.

Now that we have other family problems, my brother and my sister no longer visit my parents. My parents are old, my grandma is old and I do everything to look after them cause I know anything can happen. A once strong person can be close to death in a matter of minutes, god forbid. It be so sad to see them pass away and not having been visited by their own families for years. I know I have done my parts to keep us all close together. But still I dont like to see my bother and sister regreting by not putting that little effort for us to be together as a happy family. I guess its their choice and theres nothing much anyone can do about it. Too arrogant to even listen, maybe they need to be waken up to realise that life is too short to hold an anger at someone.

Them reading this thread will only make them laugh, its sad really. Will probably think its a chain letter.

Once again, sorry for the lost of your dear friend. Im sure your story have made some of us realised what life is all about.

BoyNextDoor · 06-05-2006, 06:03 PM

Quote: Originally Posted by Chris31

Im sure your story have made some of us realised what life is all about.

This was my intention. And to ease my mind. If i can have one person get in contact with their friends, I did my job...

Thanx again for everyones responses, it does help trumendously (sp?) Please continue to do so...

meddler · 06-05-2006, 07:54 PM

Sorry to hear about your friend. Unfortunately, I can't really offer much else.I hope you and everyone else that knew him gets through this hard time. I have seen the way things like this affects people and it's not good. I wish you the best.

migel628 · 06-06-2006, 01:01 AM

Wow, no wonder you were kind of quiet on IM earlier. Sorry to hear about your friend, losing someone close is never easy. As turbocad6 said, life is very fragile. However, it is the strength of your character that will determine how you live it. Live life to the fullest and don't let anything pull you down. Keep your head up man, it may not get easier, but things will get better.

JC-S60 · 06-06-2006, 01:27 AM

Strength to make the right dicisions based on your experiences and new insights.

My thoughts go out to you.

alti · 06-07-2006, 10:23 PM

I am so sorry to hear this, I cannot imagine the pain that your friend must have felt at the loose of his marrage. If I were in his shoes I would be totally crushed.

It does make one pause to think about life and just how quickly it can change, and just how precious the gifts of friends and family are.

Try not to feel bad for not being in contact, its not your fault.

BIzFlawless · 06-08-2006, 01:16 PM

Jus wanna say, you and his will be in my prayers, I'll even go light a candle and say a prayer at the church for you. Truly am sorry for this loss, Keep your head up...

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