Greatest Day

barqs · 07-04-2006, 08:51 PM

Everyone who responed to the thread by Red GTi VR6 must be given a lot of credit for giving very good adivce. But as I see it, there are three sides to every story: his, hers and the truth...What is her side?

To quote Odyssey

"Women do not want to feel like they are just wasting their time in a relationship. They look at it long term, marriage, kids, etc. Women also want attention, to feel love, and wanted. Otherwise they feel used.

Yes, the greatest day of my life was the day I got married. You asked what is next? I am told the day your child is born.

I got married at 20 and divorced that 24, we were good friends in high school and dated. My marriage was good (not saying it was perfect, but nothing too major) until the last couple of months. She just changed over night, totally different mind frame. I tried to save the marriage with counseling, but she wanted no part. But, if I had a choice I would do it all over again."

He is right about the first part, too bad he did not apply that to his marrige. And we were no longer together at 23. We haven't spoken in almost 2 years and you want to give advice to someone when you couldn't do anything for your own marrige. I do not think that is a good idea.
Since you have said that you would do it all over agian... would do everything the same or would you change things? Would we have children? Would we talk or would you stay in your PC room talking here and checking out all the porn that the internet has to offer? Would we be happy if we tryed a little harder, or made a better attempt at being in love?
All of the unanswered questions that I have, all of the times that I have wanting nothing more than to talk to you, all of the attempts to fix what was wrong...was it for nothing? Do you feel like you tryed? If you do, what did you try? To get help after I walked out the door?

Thanks for letting me post, I hope it doesn't get removed before Ody gets to read it... I hope to get a responce....If you want to call me, I know that you have my phone number.... Try calling it...It does work.....

wizardPC · 07-04-2006, 09:01 PM

Who wants to fill me in?

turbocad6 · 07-04-2006, 10:45 PM

oddyssey's ex?

Quattro · 07-05-2006, 12:18 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by turbocad6

oddyssey's ex?

thats what I'm guessing.

I think it extends for the "Advice needed from people with SO's" thread.

ODYSSEY · 07-05-2006, 12:39 AM

A) I was pretty sure barqs was my ex-wife, but admin's would never give me more info.

B) There is a lot more to the story than I wish to have posted here or anywhere. Things that I have learned/realized since we separated (about you, me and us).

C) Some times you really do not realize how much you loved someone until it is too late.

D) No, I will not call you; I told you before I do not want you in my life anymore since you divorced me.

wizardPC · 07-05-2006, 01:37 AM

mmmkay....now I think I'm even more confused, 'cause barqs kept talking about the ex-wife.

You mean to tell me that people who post things on the intarweb might not be who they say they are? OMG!

jjh221 · 07-05-2006, 01:39 AM

huh? barqs is a girl.

wizardPC · 07-05-2006, 01:42 AM

http://www.mp3car.com/vbulletin/off-topic/68864-exs-whatnot.html

ODYSSEY · 07-05-2006, 01:45 AM

http://www.mp3car.com/vbulletin/show...5&postcount=34
http://www.mp3car.com/vbulletin/show...9&postcount=47

barqs · 07-05-2006, 01:50 AM

Then give me my closure... That is all I have asked from you. We do not have to do it here, publicly, but I want something. I want to know your thoughts on all of it. See if we can figure out.... all of the unanswered questions we both have.

wizardPC · 07-05-2006, 01:59 AM

You need some serious counseling. Honestly.

Think about your actions thusfar:
1. You signed up for an account here, knowing that Ody is a regular
2. You posted about problems with your "ex-wife," obviously projecting.
3. 6 months later, you make this very public plea for contact.

You have a problem, and it ain't that Ody won't talk to you.

barqs · 07-05-2006, 02:22 AM

It struck a cord with me. I am not trying to be a problem but I do not feel he should give advice to people when he can not follow it himself. It takes two to ruin a marriage...

DJiK · 07-05-2006, 02:33 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by barqs

It struck a cord with me. I am not trying to be a problem but I do not feel he should give advice to people when he can not follow it himself. It takes two to ruin a marriage...

After two years of separation you still think you have control over your ex husband?

Rafster · 07-05-2006, 03:42 AM

What the hell?????

Get out of the forum with your Dr. Phil / Dr. Laura problems....

Go see a psycologist and see if you can get some kind of counselling.

This forum is for car computers.

Read the big link in my sig. It won't help your failed marrige, but it might help you build a car pc....

Peace,

Rafster

tj!2k4 · 07-05-2006, 04:04 AM

seriously, get lost woman and leave ody alone! why do you insist on playing games?

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