Almost any distro has the possibility to manually select packages to install. So take a distro and do a manual install.
You could also just do a sort of “minimal” install, this kind of option is available in many distros.
Check
www.distrowatch.com for reviews on many linux distros.
Note on kde:
KDE is a really resource hungry. You probably don’t need it.
The linux GUI is built out of several components:
- Xfree
- A window manager, fvwm, twm etc etc
- A desktop, like KDE (optional !)
Xfree is the base, it controls your videocard and reads your mouse and keyboard. The window manager keeps track of the window coordinates, sizes and stuff. Xfree and a windows manager are really must haves, but the desktop is something you don’t need. The desktop is just a set of tools, icons, a taskbar, wallpaper, etc…. Any X program runs perfectly without KDE.
So the best thing to do is make a list of programs that need to be started automatically and add the list into .xinitrc file in your home directory. This way you do not need to have the resource hungry KDE

Search for “XWindow-User-HOWTO”on google for more info.
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