Originally Posted by
rdholtz
Well, sometimes Sunday with Dad is as good for you as church. You're only going to have him for a while. We old guys just up and die, and then it's too late -- no more Dad time. And Vietnam veterans die younger than the rest of the population -- combat's a significant strain on us. My advice is to trade in some church time for Dad. That's a crucial bond in your development, even if it's a strain.
My Dad lived 'til last year, when he was 92, and I still didn't get enough of him. Now, people who knew him tell me stories about him -- stuff I never knew -- and I realize I could have known that nifty stuff if I'd spent more time with him. He was a warrior, too -- was in the Pacific theater in WWII. We traded stories a few times, but -- like most combat vets -- we mostly only talked to vets about them. It was a pretty good bond, though; combat is combat, no matter what war it is, and our experiences were surprisingly similar.
Get that Dad time in. These are formative times for you, and Dad's input will be very valuable. Yep, maybe sometimes he's cranky, and maybe sometimes it's like you're being a PITA. But he needs Son time and you need Dad time. It's amazing for your soul, and it adds sonshine to his life.
With a little luck, you can ask about his boyhood, and you'll hear some interesting stuff. Just sitting next to him in silence is a connection.
Don't pass on those opportunities . . .